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Signs that your BFF is just so toxic

 

We truly love our BFFs, right? But when that time comes her presence is no longer a delight to be around, then that is when you have to question yourself “What is really happening in here?”

 

So, IS YOUR BFF A TOXIC KIND OF BES?

If you’re quite clueless about it, I’ll help you figure it out.

 

  • Your BFF is pessimistic.

Whenever you get into a problem, relationship, family or what, he/she constantly compares his/her experience about it, insisting that the outcome will be just the same. He might also conclude that whatever it is that you are suffering is your fault and that; you really can’t do something about it. Oh okay, so you’re saying apples and oranges are the same. What a support, bes.

 

  • If BFF is a bad listener.

I don’t get it when every time I’m telling how my day went you keep on interrupting me sharing yours like “hey, I had a better or worse day than you do. You must listen to this first.” Come on, if your BFF never give a **** listening or even letting you finish anything you say, GOODNESS! That is a red flag. Confront your beloved BFF before you lose your temper.

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  • If BFF keeps on judging all the people that you encounter.

First, you have to ask yourself or him\her directly if it makes sense judging them at all and for what purpose because if he/she was not able to give out a reasonable reason for it then that is clearly his/her habit. Let go of toxic humans.

 

  • If BFF can’t accept that they’re wrong.

We’re just humans so how come your own BFF couldn’t accept their mistakes. Obviously, this BFF always have to be right. This is disappointing because people like this sometimes even fight for their belief no matter how troublesome it brings as long as they have proven that they are right. Have you ever had an argument with your BFF because he/she keeps on insisting that you’re wrong and he’s right? (Or you guys were both wrong? Kidding.)

 

  • If BFF reacts poorly to criticism.

It is indeed a normal thing to be criticized especially when a person cares for you. This toxic BFF is not seeking for a healthier friendship but is only aiming for a shallow one where he/she gets all the praise and good reactions alone.

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  • They’re subtly (Or Not So Subtly) Competitive

For me, it is normal to have competitions with your BFF in terms of career and studies it is because rivalry (See: https://thestrayrussianblue.wordpress.com/2016/01/21/why-your-rival-plays-a-big-role-to-you/) motivates me to do my best and simply work harder than the usual. But once that rivalry or competition has resulted to envy, that’s a call to stop and create an open forum.

 

  • They’re Masters of the Put-Down.

“You look like an awful pig. Haha! No, I’m just kidding, girl!”

Cracking jokes on friendships are so mainstream and pretty normal that sometimes we no longer think whether they really mean it or not. You will only realize that there is a problem once it hurts you and he/she insists that it was a joke, making you feel like it was your fault if you got offended. It is an absolute red flag for your friendship because this BFF is obviously TOXIC.

 

There are reasons why this kind of people exists. It may vary but whatever it is, you have to work on keeping your friendship. Confront your BFF if you think he/she is being toxic and is beginning to be a burden in your life. I suggest you work on it as soon as possible because once toxic people get used to their attitude, it is nearly impossible for them to change and be enlightened.

7 FLOP New Year’s Resolution people never get tired of listing

“Great! It’s 2017! I shall jot down my New Year’s resolution!” said the hopeful human.

 

Have you ever notice your previous New Year’s Resolutions? They were all broken and then here you go again, drafting and listing down all the things that you wish to do and change.  Well, I’m not saying that having a New Year’s Resolution is terrible, what I’m saying is you NEVER ever met what you wish to do or change.

 

Check out these seven FLOP New Year’s Resolution. You might want to check if your current resolutions are included. (I’m just saying.)

 

  • Quit smoking.

“Alright, New Year, New Change, I’m not gonna smoke cigarettes but I’ll vape.”

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Come on, you wanted to quit smoking you should mean it, right? Why switch into something that does the same thing to your health? People believe that vape contains less nicotine. Probably, but there are still some levels of nicotine that you can choose from it’s like you don’t really quit smoking you just switch. You should have changed your New Year’s resolution, then.

 

  • Not going to curse or blaspheme.

This is very possible for me. But to those people who have identified cursing as an expression, it is going to be quite hard.cursing

We curse or swear because of what we feel inside: anger, annoyance…Etc. but what people know is that this act has a strong impact to you as person. So, what does it reflects to you? It simply reflects who you are as a person. Now, what person do you want to be?

 

  • Eat healthier and DIET

D-I-E-T Four words but seem very difficult for people to achieve. Did you include this resolution in your list? Well, you must take it seriously now. Holidays have devastated not only your figure but also your well-being. fruits-and-vegetablesSurely, you have eaten a lot during those seasons so obviously your body carries huge cholesterol and calories from different food that you ate.

Stand up and make your diet happen this year!

 

  • Spend more time with family

I think what is hindering people from achieving this resolution is the lack of savings and time.hands-pic

Why? When you are not earning enough money to spend you have to double time with your job. I mean, you have to double the effort that you exert in terms of your career. So if that is the case, time is affected.

This 2017, change for good, if you know what I mean.

 

  • Binge-drinking

“I am going to reduce drinking alcohol beverages.”

No. You have said that five new years ago but then here you go, drunk AF at this point of time. When will you achieve this resolution? When you’re already choking on your own vomit?binge-drinking1

Step up, man. Do it!

 

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Same with spending time with family, this resolution commonly flops because of the same thing: Time and enough savings. You have to do something about it. But when will you begin? Next year? Again?

 

And lastly,

 

  • Get out of debt.

You know why it is hard for people to save and invest for their personal use? Because of debts that remain unpaid for long time. Why don’t you start this year by beginning to this resolution?  Pay your debt and start saving. I doubt if you still find it hard to save more money this time.

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Now, once you have started getting yourself out of debt, you will get to have time with your family and yourself. In regards to health-related resolutions, it is absolutely in your hands whether you’d like to achieve them or not but what’s the purpose of listing them on your New Year’s resolution if you don’t have any plans to achieve them.

Were you just wasting your time jotting down resolutions every New Year’s Day? I pity the ink of the pen, then.

 

I’m hoping this 2017; you get to achieve whatever that is written on your New Year’s Resolution.

Get yourself up and start doing something about it.

 

Happy New Year, folks!

In 2017, Say Hello To Happiness — Thought Catalog

Seth Doyle Maybe you were just looking in all the wrong places. Maybe you forgot about finding happiness in the small things. Maybe you forgot how blissfully calming that first sip of tea in the chilly mornings could be. Or how perfectly cozy you felt curled up and sleepy under your soft, warm quilt. Or the smell…

via In 2017, Say Hello To Happiness — Thought Catalog

Thoughts on Miss World 2016

 

“Beauty is the opposite of perfection, it’s about confidence, charisma and character.”

 

I would like to share my unprejudiced thoughts and insights on the recent pageant but first and foremost, I only highlighted the Top 5 Final Q&A portion of the said pageant because first, I believe that it is the much-awaited moment where the individual candidates would have to showcase their beautiful minds and lastly, this portion determines who deserved the glorious crown.

 

The portion was presented by Tim Vincent whereas the beautiful ladies have given the chance to stun the crowd with their glamorous evening gown. For instance, I researched for the question and answers in order for you to take a peek at how the ladies presented themselves,.

The following were the said Q and A of the candidates for this year’s Miss World Pageant:

 

MISS KENYA – EVELYN NJAMBI THUNGU

-Question from Miss World 1988 Linda Petursdottir of Iceland: What can you do to improve education in the world?

-Answer: What we can do to improve education in the world… Obviously, it begins with empowering every child to understand that education is important, and Nelson Mandela said that it is the weapon that a child can use to face the future. So first let’s educate our parents that education is important and then we shall have all children on board to achieve their dreams.

 

MISS PUERTO RICO – STEPHANIE DEL VALLE (MISS WORLD 2016)

-Question from Miss World 1975 Wilnelia Lady Forsyth of Puerto Rico: if you have an opportunity to change something about the world, what would it be?

-Answer: If I have the opportunity to change something about the world, I think what I would do is send a message of how important it is to change exclusion for acceptance, to promote and provide justice for others, and the importance of helping those in need. Thank you.

 

MISS INDONESIA – NATASHA MANNUELA (SECOND RUNNER-UP)

-Miss World 2002 Azra Akin of Turkey: How would you convince others to help their communities?

-Answer: How to convince others is… Have to start from myself first. Then to start with love, then other people could see our sincere (sic) and they can inspire on how, what we do. And then [we] can continue it and share it to others again. And then one world can be one and can inspire the entire world with love. Thank you.

 

MISS DOMINICAN REPUBLIC – YARITZA MIGUELINA REYES RAMIREZ (FIRST RUNNER-UP)

-Miss World 2008 Ksenia Sukhinova of Russia: What do you think should we be teaching the next generation about protecting our planet?

-Answer: I think we should be teaching our next generation to protect our planet. This is the only one we have. We shall protect Mother Earth. We should all be together and encourage communities and contribute with making campaigns so people can collect their trash. We have already global warming. We cannot stop it but we can enhance opportunities to make it better.

 

MISS PHILIPPINES – CATRIONA GRAY

-Miss World 2015 Mireia Lalaguna of Spain: Which qualities do you think it will take to wear my crown?

-Answer: I think, first of all, it takes bravery. To be a Miss World is to carry a burning torch. It is like action carried out by one to illuminate the lives of many. And I would dedicate my whole self, my love for the arts and my voice to try to uplift, empower and educate people. And it would be my greatest honor and duty to hold this torch high enough so that all the world could feel and see its light. Thank you. (source:http://news.abs-cbn.com/)

 

The pageant has ended as Miss Puerto Rico takes the crown to be the Miss World 2016. The first runner-up was Miss Dominican Republic Yaritza Miguelina Reyes Ramirez and Miss Indonesia Natasha Mannuella took the third place.

 

Alright, so I was reviewing the comments about the previous pageant (because I am certain there are quite a lot) and I have noticed that majority of the Filipinos did not seem to be in favor of the results. Miss Philippines’ Catriona Gray unluckily did not take the crown of Miss World and based on the sited Q and A of the individual candidates, I think I understand where they are coming from. I am half-Filipino but I honestly do not grab this opportunity to simply be one-sided on this issue. I admired all the candidates. In fact, there were all great actually. It is just that you know as a human with a little good criticism in certain issues, I could not stop myself from sharing my thoughts and insights about some things. So, again, this thought of mine is neutral and fair.

 

Let’s be real here, if I am to rank the candidates answers, Miss Kenya would have gotten the crown then Miss Philippines will take the second place, Miss Puerto Rico on the third place, Miss Dominican Republic and then Miss Indonesia.

 

What were my basis and criteria then?

 

Almost all the questions that have been thrown to the candidates were all about to test their personality. Of course, it should be. Simply because the duties of the titleholders have something much for the people: Charity works, speak for awareness occasions things like that. So basically, the character of the crowned queen matters.  In regards to my basis, I gave importance to the current issues of the world today, humanity, our devastated environment, the world itself.

Does their answers relate to these issues? It should be because these issues are the main problem of our society.

After all, there did very well. I couldn’t argue with that. I firmly believe that it is just a matter of perspective. For we all have different ways of judging each of these candidates. Maybe for me, Miss Kenya deserved to be Miss World 2016; there were some that think Miss Philippines have it and etc. That is alright.  What is more important here is that surely they have given their best enough to win the crown and that I am convinced they were quite satisfied with their performance.

 

Let’s just let it be. The pageant has ended and so our criticism supposed to be as well.

 

Why don’t we just move on and rejoice with Miss Puerto Rico?

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DOSE OF BOREDOM KILLER: Clever Comics and Illustrations from different Clever Artists

We could not deny the fact that once we were trapped in the midst of boredom; we always look for something that would draw our attention. In my being, I prefer reading whimsy comics, those that usually end up unexpectedly it’ll make me laugh.

To share it with you, I actually have only two trusted sites which I believe could give me the satisfaction when it comes to my comic needs, those that could definitely vanish my boredom and transform them into joviality.

Do you have one? Let me know.

Bored Panda and The Oatmeal. Yes, these were the said sites. Bored Panda is actually a submission platform, a leading art design and photography community for creative people that helps them, artists and creators turn their stories into. The Oatmeal is kind of different. The Oatmeal is entirely a humor website created by cartoonist Matthew Inman .Everything that is written and published in this site is his original comics and take it from me, his comics, everything in his site are worth-wasting time reading.

For now, I will be sharing stuffs that I’ve enjoyed from Bored Panda alone so you guys wouldn’t be fed up with the silly jokes, the “clever” and should I say very cynical comics in it.

  1. We are all good in different aspects. It is just that on the early stage of growing up, we have to deal with things out of our interest. Well, think of it as the foundation of your intelligence. I believe that it all depends on one’s mindset.

clever 1.jpg         2.  Look how powerful our words could destroy one’s being.  Brutally nailed it.

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3.   I didn’t see that coming. Lol.

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4. Oh  my poor cats! But hey, my cats are lovable.

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5. A little way to begin reviving humanity. Start it with the children.

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6.  This is indeed silly. Sorry but I had to just include this. HAHA

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7.  People had a slight misunderstanding about this one. How come they did not realize that the possessed human didn’t just recognize the priest. There aren’t unusual to that. Still, it’s funny. HAHA

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I also sympathize to these illustrations of Alex Noriega (Stuff No One Told Me)  so it made on my list. Do you agree as well?

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I’m thinking maybe we could because why not?


 

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To enjoy more of these illustrations, check this link:

http://www.boredpanda.com/stuff-no-one-told-me-snotm-alex-noriega/?page_numb=2

http://www.boredpanda.com/cynical-comics-illustrations-cinismoilustrado/?page_numb=3

 

Kill the boredom in you ! Cheer up !

 

Social Anxiety Sucks, Isn’t it? But will you let it consume you?

 

Have you ever feel like being uneasy every time you’re surrounded by the crowd whether in a party or in your workplace, also in any situation where you feel like you don’t know what to do or say? Are you afraid of rejection and disapproval?  If that’s so, then we shared the same condition.

As defined by Psychology Today, Social Anxiety Disorder or social phobia is an anxiety disorder characterized by overwhelming anxiety and excessive self-consciousness in everyday social situations. People with social phobia have a persistent, intense, and chronic fear of being watched and judged by others and of being embarrassed or humiliated by their own actions. Their fear may be so severe that it interferes with work, school, or other activities. And you know the horrid part of this anxiety disorder? — Overthinking.

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  • What if no one talks to me?
  • What if they find me ugly?
  • What if I don’t really belong here?
  • What if I have nothing to say?
  • What if I’ll get rejected?

 

…it is proven that you are overthinking.

 

I mentioned earlier that I am also suffering from this disorder and that I think I probably need help. I took up an anxiety test, got my results and was able to get connected with one of their therapist through emails. She emailed videos and notes that would help me to start my recovery and totally eradicate my anxiety. There were times that I did follow them but there were also times that I wasn’t able to do so because of some reasons: work, hectic schedules and the likes. One of the things that she shared to me (By the way, her name is Rachel Ramos) recently is the Ten Commandments of Social Anxiety wherein she wanted to encourage not only me but everyone to open your mouth because life gets easier and more fun when you do and right, I believe things started in a simple small talk but with us, people suffering in anxiety, this isn’t an easy thing. Just thinking about it made us cringe. Furthermore, Rachel also mentioned that “The people you brush past every day are not your enemies, nor are they your judges or critics. They are potential friends, lovers, collaborators, teachers, or employers who you are missing out on because of your anxiety.” Thus I gain the motivation to at least try not to be uncertain and overthink.

 

Now, here are the Ten Commandments to stop overthinking social situations. Rachel made a pretentious title to it so people could take them seriously.

 

THE TEN COMMANDMENTS TO STOP OVERTHINKING IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS

I. No one is watching you approach and judging you for it. They are just as worried about being judged and criticized as you are.

 

II. Don’t worry if you’re shy or nervous when approaching; people will be nicer to you because of it.

 

III. Let go of your outcome. If you want nothing out of the interaction other than to speak to someone else, you have a 100 percent chance of succeeding as soon as you utter something.

 

IV. A rejection is not a comment on who you are as a person. It is simply feedback on something you did.

 

V. Instead of being outcome dependent, be learning dependent.

 

VI. No one will say anything as insulting, mean, and cruel about you as the things you tell yourself.

 

VII. Know that wherever you go, you are accepted. And if you don’t know it yet, then act as if it’s true until experience proves it.

 

VIII. More people than you could possibly imagine are looking to meet someone just like you.

 

IX.  The only failure is not approaching. Because the pain and disappointment of letting yourself down is much greater than anything someone else can say.

 

X.  And, finally…life is more fun when you open your mouth!

 

No matter how sucks social anxiety is, always remember that it is a treatable condition. You don’t have to forever feel the same the way. If you really wanted to recuperate, of course, you need to help yourself to be able to recover. Do not sulk into things that bother you a lot instead think of something that would hinder you from doing so.

Cheer up and live well.

 

© to the owner of the comic.

 

Extraordinary Works of Israeli Artist: ZEMER PELED

Anyone can be an artist of their own but having a trademark is considered to be superior.

Zemer Peled is a sculptor and installation artist whose works focused on the scrutiny
of nature’s beauty. To begin with her master piece, she grinds and cuts thousands of
porcelain to assemble the shards to form into large-scale/small-scale sculptures and
also installations.

The following are Peled’s impressive works:

  1. Japan’s collection (porcelain shards, fired clay, 2013
    H14 X W10.2 X L7 inch or H36 X W26 X L18 cm)

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2. Single Bloom  (porcelain shards, fired clay, 2014
H13.7 X W23.6 X L23.6 inch or H35 X W60 X L60 cm)

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3.   Pair by the Sea (porcelain shards, fired clay, 2014
H11 X W19 X L23 inch or H28 X W48.2 X L58.4 cm each)

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4. Three Hoo Intertwined  (porcelain shards, fired clay, 2015
H23 X W9 X L11 inch or H58.4 X W22.8 X L27.9 cm)

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5Single Central Bloom (porcelain shards, fired clay, 2015
                                                      H5 X W12 X L12 inch or H12.7 X W30.4 X L30.4 cm)
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6.  Shards Flower Collection 3 (porcelain shards, fired clay
W12 x D3 inches or W30 x D7.5 cm)

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7.  Bunch of Shards (porcelain shards, fired clay, 2015
16 inches diameter, D10) 

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8. Wondering Nowhere (porcelain shards, fired clay, 2015
H18 x W17 x D8 inches or H46 x W43 x D20 cm)

  9. Dusk (porcelain shards, ceramic, 2016
                H36 x L24 x D27 inches)

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There were few sculptures that were also undeniably nice but is untitled. Few of them are as follows:

   Porcelain, 2016
   H15 x L21 x D21 inches 

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   Porcelain shards, fired clay, 2015
   H12.5 X W13.3 X L7.4 inch or H32 X W34 X L19 cm

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   Porcelain, 2016
   H22 x L17 x D17 inches

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Aren’t they all amazingly beautiful?

You can check out more and explore Zemer Peled’s sculpture compilation here: http://www.zemerpeled.com/

2016 Holiday Gift Guide — CBS DC

Here comes Santa Claus, here comes Santa Claus…with the ultimate holiday gift guide! Buying gifts for the whole family doesn’t have to be a daunting task. This holiday gift guide has a present for everyone on your list. The Tech GuruHigh Definition Camera Lens And Casewww.momentlens.co They say a picture is worth a thousand words.…

via 2016 Holiday Gift Guide — CBS DC

A Rare Handwritten Poem By Anne Frank Has Been Sold For $148,000 — TIME

An eight-line poem written by Anne Frank, the Jewish schoolgirl whose diaries became one of the most profound documents of the Holocaust, was sold Wednesday at auction in the Netherlands for $148,000. The BBC reports that the Bubb Kuyper auction house in Haarlem expected it to fetch no more than 50,000 Euros, or around $53,000.…

via A Rare Handwritten Poem By Anne Frank Has Been Sold For $148,000 — TIME

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