People come and go. We all know that every single thing God or man-made is indeed temporary, that even the closest person in your life may leave anytime they want or any time life would asked them to, and the fact that at the end of the day it is still ourselves alone whom we could rely on to. Probably, you once asked yourself, can I live without this human beside me? Or am I still going to be this eager once this friend of mine left suddenly and leave me hanging? Chances are you can but you know for a fact that it is never that easy.

So, why do we need to get used of being alone? Why is it essential to do so?

When you have yourself alone, you could talk to yourself. Have you ever tried talking to yourself through your mind while walking? I did and surprisingly, it soothes me. In my case, I talk to myself when I’m down or sad. I am used with being alone since I really don’t have much friends so being in this state is no longer new to me. I’m neither sad about it nor regretful. Aside from having the capability of being soothe, Science Daily said that talking to oneself has a cognitive benefits like having an in-depth focus.

Moreover, being alone means appreciating the beauty of the things around you. I want you to think of the last time you walk, probably last night or this morning. Have you notice those blooming flowers that you just pass-by? What about the newly painted wall that was vandalized by street children have you recognize its new appearance? Probably no, I’m not talking about these things alone. I’m referring with the things around you that you supposed to notice only if you’re alone focusing on your environment and not with your company. If you did, then you’re certainly alone at that point of time because you were more observant than when you’re walking together with someone. Ask yourself, isn’t it nice to walk alone, listening to your playlist and preparing yourself to start the day without the need to talk and communicate for a while?

Research says, fear of being alone and having fear in doing things in your own way can lead to anxiety, panic attacks, phobias, depression and even suicide. The only reason why they feel that way is because on the very beginning of their childhood, they get used of people having their backs when things went wrong which is undoubtedly unhealthy. It begins with a person feeling empty and isolated with its surroundings including the people he/she once get closed to. How are you going to handle that situation?

I suggest, you start by having a peace of mind. You need to begin reminding yourself that having a company is good. Yes, we all could agree to that. But what about when you need a break, when you’re tired and you just want a peaceful day without hearing anyone uttering words near you? Think of it. Try to picture it out in your mind. Can you feel the relaxation that it brings? Every time you feel exhausted, simply remind yourself that being alone helps you to think clearly. It gives an unexpected peace due to the absence of others judgment. You’ll be surprise with the result.

As has been noted, keeping a company is not a bad thing. In fact, people most of the time spend days and hours with their respective companions to unwind and de-stress. BUT. You must never forget the art of being a lone wolf. Soon, it’ll be you who’s going to face life alone, not them. They may help you. Yes, possibly, but for how long?

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Keep in mind that even your hair is temporary. It falls and soon regrows, like the humans around you who come and go. Food for thought.

 Originally posted on medium.com/a.arcillas
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