People are born with the capacity to imagine and even visualize what we think caused by our childhood environment. We can even bring this up to the first few months of our high school years and influence others. We never know, not to mention that sometimes we don’t care if what we do gets on other people’s nerves. Let’s just say telling what is not useful in the future are matured stuff to do. Yet, we still do it until we finally realize that they are actually right. One of these Imaginary activities we do is called self-made identities. These identities we make are the combined characteristics that we admire from other people we met or see. It could be their knowledge, skills, atmosphere, physical features, wealth, profession, etc. Mixing all these admirations, we create our ideal person. That’s normal until one thinks that this ideal person is actually oneself.
As I observed, these Self-Made Identities has 2 stages. Stage 1, believing that this imaginary someone actually exists which is normal. Stage 2, the moment when this person believes that this ideal person is actually him. These stages happen throughout middle school. Good thing, the belief slowly fades up to the stage of puberty. That’s the stage of maturity when a lot of things are starting to make sense.
You know what’s funny about self-made identities? It’s the fact that no matter how foolish and stupid you once were, stealing your identity by somebody is still a different issue. Here’s a good scenario:
Let’s say you are a Star Wars fan when you were child that you even hide a toy light saber under your sleeve and believe that you can make somebody float using the ‘force’. One day in your middle school, you decided to create your own character for the movie. After couple of years when you reached puberty, you decided to stop this madness because you realized that it was very embarrassing and leaving it behind is the best solution to live normally. More years later when everything seems normal, you saw an impostor of your own character and claiming that it was him who created it. What would you feel?
In this scenario, there are only 2 possibilities: Number 1. You will get mad because your own character was stolen by an impostor. Or, number 2. You will feel free to move on because you finally found somebody who can inherit the embarrassment you once made.
So, why do we feel insecure or uncertain when another person is using the identity you originally created? First, let us understand what insecurity is and how it affects you mental state. Insecurity often happens when an individual believes to possess a certain object or bound to someone that was stolen. It even appears in form of jealousy or threat and usually responds malevolently when dealing to copyrights. In other words, you feel incomplete when somebody stole a piece of your personality whether it’s a product of your playful mind or in reality.
Self-made identities are product of our imagination that once protected us from anxiety. It left us a memorable lesson to face what’s really happening around us. Those are the good days of your childhood that made you who you are.