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Social Anxiety Sucks, Isn’t it? But will you let it consume you?

 

Have you ever feel like being uneasy every time you’re surrounded by the crowd whether in a party or in your workplace, also in any situation where you feel like you don’t know what to do or say? Are you afraid of rejection and disapproval?  If that’s so, then we shared the same condition.

As defined by Psychology Today, Social Anxiety Disorder or social phobia is an anxiety disorder characterized by overwhelming anxiety and excessive self-consciousness in everyday social situations. People with social phobia have a persistent, intense, and chronic fear of being watched and judged by others and of being embarrassed or humiliated by their own actions. Their fear may be so severe that it interferes with work, school, or other activities. And you know the horrid part of this anxiety disorder? — Overthinking.

Yes, once several “What Ifs” clogged your mind during a social situation…ifs.png

  • What if no one talks to me?
  • What if they find me ugly?
  • What if I don’t really belong here?
  • What if I have nothing to say?
  • What if I’ll get rejected?

 

…it is proven that you are overthinking.

 

I mentioned earlier that I am also suffering from this disorder and that I think I probably need help. I took up an anxiety test, got my results and was able to get connected with one of their therapist through emails. She emailed videos and notes that would help me to start my recovery and totally eradicate my anxiety. There were times that I did follow them but there were also times that I wasn’t able to do so because of some reasons: work, hectic schedules and the likes. One of the things that she shared to me (By the way, her name is Rachel Ramos) recently is the Ten Commandments of Social Anxiety wherein she wanted to encourage not only me but everyone to open your mouth because life gets easier and more fun when you do and right, I believe things started in a simple small talk but with us, people suffering in anxiety, this isn’t an easy thing. Just thinking about it made us cringe. Furthermore, Rachel also mentioned that “The people you brush past every day are not your enemies, nor are they your judges or critics. They are potential friends, lovers, collaborators, teachers, or employers who you are missing out on because of your anxiety.” Thus I gain the motivation to at least try not to be uncertain and overthink.

 

Now, here are the Ten Commandments to stop overthinking social situations. Rachel made a pretentious title to it so people could take them seriously.

 

THE TEN COMMANDMENTS TO STOP OVERTHINKING IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS

I. No one is watching you approach and judging you for it. They are just as worried about being judged and criticized as you are.

 

II. Don’t worry if you’re shy or nervous when approaching; people will be nicer to you because of it.

 

III. Let go of your outcome. If you want nothing out of the interaction other than to speak to someone else, you have a 100 percent chance of succeeding as soon as you utter something.

 

IV. A rejection is not a comment on who you are as a person. It is simply feedback on something you did.

 

V. Instead of being outcome dependent, be learning dependent.

 

VI. No one will say anything as insulting, mean, and cruel about you as the things you tell yourself.

 

VII. Know that wherever you go, you are accepted. And if you don’t know it yet, then act as if it’s true until experience proves it.

 

VIII. More people than you could possibly imagine are looking to meet someone just like you.

 

IX.  The only failure is not approaching. Because the pain and disappointment of letting yourself down is much greater than anything someone else can say.

 

X.  And, finally…life is more fun when you open your mouth!

 

No matter how sucks social anxiety is, always remember that it is a treatable condition. You don’t have to forever feel the same the way. If you really wanted to recuperate, of course, you need to help yourself to be able to recover. Do not sulk into things that bother you a lot instead think of something that would hinder you from doing so.

Cheer up and live well.

 

© to the owner of the comic.

 

Extraordinary Works of Israeli Artist: ZEMER PELED

Anyone can be an artist of their own but having a trademark is considered to be superior.

Zemer Peled is a sculptor and installation artist whose works focused on the scrutiny
of nature’s beauty. To begin with her master piece, she grinds and cuts thousands of
porcelain to assemble the shards to form into large-scale/small-scale sculptures and
also installations.

The following are Peled’s impressive works:

  1. Japan’s collection (porcelain shards, fired clay, 2013
    H14 X W10.2 X L7 inch or H36 X W26 X L18 cm)

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2. Single Bloom  (porcelain shards, fired clay, 2014
H13.7 X W23.6 X L23.6 inch or H35 X W60 X L60 cm)

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3.   Pair by the Sea (porcelain shards, fired clay, 2014
H11 X W19 X L23 inch or H28 X W48.2 X L58.4 cm each)

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4. Three Hoo Intertwined  (porcelain shards, fired clay, 2015
H23 X W9 X L11 inch or H58.4 X W22.8 X L27.9 cm)

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5Single Central Bloom (porcelain shards, fired clay, 2015
                                                      H5 X W12 X L12 inch or H12.7 X W30.4 X L30.4 cm)
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6.  Shards Flower Collection 3 (porcelain shards, fired clay
W12 x D3 inches or W30 x D7.5 cm)

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7.  Bunch of Shards (porcelain shards, fired clay, 2015
16 inches diameter, D10) 

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8. Wondering Nowhere (porcelain shards, fired clay, 2015
H18 x W17 x D8 inches or H46 x W43 x D20 cm)

  9. Dusk (porcelain shards, ceramic, 2016
                H36 x L24 x D27 inches)

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There were few sculptures that were also undeniably nice but is untitled. Few of them are as follows:

   Porcelain, 2016
   H15 x L21 x D21 inches 

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   Porcelain shards, fired clay, 2015
   H12.5 X W13.3 X L7.4 inch or H32 X W34 X L19 cm

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   Porcelain, 2016
   H22 x L17 x D17 inches

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Aren’t they all amazingly beautiful?

You can check out more and explore Zemer Peled’s sculpture compilation here: http://www.zemerpeled.com/

2016 Holiday Gift Guide — CBS DC

Here comes Santa Claus, here comes Santa Claus…with the ultimate holiday gift guide! Buying gifts for the whole family doesn’t have to be a daunting task. This holiday gift guide has a present for everyone on your list. The Tech GuruHigh Definition Camera Lens And Casewww.momentlens.co They say a picture is worth a thousand words.…

via 2016 Holiday Gift Guide — CBS DC

A Rare Handwritten Poem By Anne Frank Has Been Sold For $148,000 — TIME

An eight-line poem written by Anne Frank, the Jewish schoolgirl whose diaries became one of the most profound documents of the Holocaust, was sold Wednesday at auction in the Netherlands for $148,000. The BBC reports that the Bubb Kuyper auction house in Haarlem expected it to fetch no more than 50,000 Euros, or around $53,000.…

via A Rare Handwritten Poem By Anne Frank Has Been Sold For $148,000 — TIME

7 melodious yet melancholic songs of Landonn Pigg

After a day full of stress and mess, we often take our lone time, to meditate and replenish the energy that has been emptied due to the long day run. Some would prefer unwinding through a vacation but with me, I prefer to rejuvenate  with my playlist, a collection of melancholic songs you might wonder, why is that..

I simply love mood-depressing songs,those that could trigger old memories back, songs that express lost, broken and anything in between. The melodious tunes that are somewhat filled with desolation accompanied by organ or piano would be the perfect instrumental for me to listen.

Since it’s Thursday and people usually post their “throwback” stuffs, I would like to share my personally chosen melancholic songs as my throwback thing from the singer and song-writer, Landonn Pigg. For those who do not know this wonderful singer, Pigg participated in the movie “The Perks of being a Wallflower” where he played the role as Peter, a certain character’s boyfriend. (Watch the movie so you would know…)

Reverting back, here are my personally chosen melodious yet melancholic songs from Landonn Pigg.

  • Can’t let go

This single was ranked No.19 in the Adult Pop Top 40 way back December 2006. The lyrics is just so haunting.

  • The Way It Ends

This song became the soundtrack of Grey’s Anatomy season 6. How Landonn Pigg strum his guitar matches perfectly to the song… So depressing. (Do you find it weird? Nah~)

  • The Boy Who Never

This is played to be broken in disguise. The mood seems jolly but if you will scrutinize the lyric… it’s there.

“I could kiss you now but I’d only miss you more

When I walk away”

  • A Ghost

Such a sad but very honest song… I love the mood that it brought me while I’m listening to it.

  • If I’m Saying Nothing

The calming and very serene vibe of the song is what made it deep and melodic.

  • Tin Man

“I don’t know why I feel like I should change 

I don’t know why what I need and what I want can’t be the same thing

I don’t know why I don’t miss my friends

I don’t know why I cannot comprehend how special love can be

And it’s right there for the taking”

I suddenly thought about that one. Why what I need and what I want can’t be the same thing and why I don’t miss my friends? “

  • Sailed On

Oh, this song will definitely hit my heartbroken fellas. I’m not in love but it hit me as well. What a meaningful song.

“Please don’t trouble yourself

I only want your love

You keep giving me your help

Oh please stop playing along

You know you’re wasting your energy

And you’re breaking my heart”

I’m still looking forward for more songs from Landon Piggs. He’s such an amazing singer and song writer, if you were able to listen carefully with the lyrics, it really says a lot. I admire how he makes his listeners like it was them who wrote the song especially his song “Sailed On”, I read reactions saying, it hurts them. And that the song was such a sad and painful one compared to his other songs. True to fact, Landon Piggs did a great job there. Now, I’m hoping that singers nowadays will come up with meaningful songs and not just a song that’s only a total upbeat and sometimes pointless.

10+ Quotable quotes from novels written by Herman Hesse

Herman Hesse is a German-born Swiss novelist, poet and painter. He was known for his winning works: Steppenwolf, Siddharta, Demian and The Glass Bead Game in which each of them focus on the scrutiny of individual’s search for authenticity, self-knowledge and spirituality.

As a tribute for the late Nobel laureate, I have collected notable quotes from Hesse’s best-known novels that will surely awaken your inner sense.

Herman Hesse’s Steppenwolf addresses division within the self and society, and the effects such divisions can have on an individual, such as loneliness, self-mutilation, and possible suicide. As to what I have researched, probably this novel depicts Hesse’s depression and suicidal state during his youth. steppenwolf.jpg

I have read a lot of quotes on Steppenwolf but so far these were the ones that really appealed to me.

 

“There is no reality except the one contained within us. That is why so many people live such an unreal life. They take the images outside of them for reality and never allow the world within to assert it.”

“For what I always hated and detested and cursed above all things was this contentment, this healthiness and comfort, this carefully preserved optimism of the middle classes, this fat and prosperous brood of mediocrity.”

“When I have neither pleasure nor pain and have been breathing for a while the lukewarm insipid air of these so called good and tolerable days, I feel so bad in my childish soul that I smash my moldering lyre of thanksgiving in the face of the slumbering god of contentment and would rather feel the very devil burn in me than this warmth of a well-heated room. A wild longing for strong emotions and sensations seethes in me, a rage against this toneless, flat, normal and sterile life. I have a mad impulse to smash something, a warehouse, perhaps, or a cathedral, or myself, to commit outrages, to pull off the wigs of a few revered idols…”

“Most men will not swim before they are able to.” Is that not witty? Naturally, they won’t swim! They are born for the solid earth, not for the water. And naturally they won’t think. They are made for life, not for thought. Yes, and he who thinks, what’s more, he who makes thought his business, he may go far in it, but he has bartered the solid earth for the water all the same, and one day he will drown.”

“There are always a few such people who demand the utmost of life and yet cannot come to terms with its stupidity and crudeness.”

Hesse was also known for his notable novel, Siddhartha that deals with the spiritual journey of self- discovery of a man named Siddharta, the title itself during the time of the Gautama Buddha. It is said that for you to be able to understand this novel, you have to be aware of the process of synthesis, a mental process of reconciling dualities of opposing elements.1-Siddhartha.jpg  Hesse became aware of this process of unifying opposites during his period of psychoanalysis under Dr. Joseph Bernhard Lang and Lang’s mentor, Dr. Carl Gustav Jung. We can see this process at work in his psychoanalytic and post-psychoanalytic literature (including Siddhartha and Steppenwolf, and also probably Demian), in which the theme of self-quest by resolving chaotic polar opposites appears. Here are my chosen quotes on the said piece.

“When someone seeks,” said Siddhartha, “then it easily happens that his eyes see only the thing that he seeks, and he is able to find nothing, to take in nothing because he always thinks only about the thing he is seeking, because he has one goal, because he is obsessed with his goal. Seeking means: having a goal. But finding means: being free, being open, having no goal.”

 “I have always believed, and I still believe, that whatever good or bad fortune may come our way we can always give it meaning and transform it into something of value.”

“It may be important to great thinkers to examine the world, to explain and despise it. But I think it is only important to love the world, not to despise it, not for us to hate each other, but to be able to regard the world and ourselves and all beings with love, admiration and respect.” 

 

“So she thoroughly taught him that one cannot take pleasure without giving pleasure, and that every gesture, every caress, every touch, every glance, every last bit of the body has its secret, which brings happiness to the person who knows how to wake it. She taught him that after a celebration of love the lovers should not part without admiring each other, without being conquered or having conquered, so that neither is bleak or glutted or has the bad feeling of being used or misused.”

“I have had to experience so much stupidity, so many vices, so much error, so much nausea, disillusionment and sorrow, just in order to become a child again and begin anew. I had to experience despair; I had to sink to the greatest mental depths, to thoughts of suicide, in order to experience grace.”

“Opinions mean nothing; they may be beautiful or ugly, clever or foolish, anyone can embrace or reject them.”

In 1916 to 1917 Hesse underwent treatment through psychoanalysis with Dr. Josef Lang, a disciple of Carl Jung. Through his contact with Lang and later, in 1921, from having psychoanalysis done by Jung, Hesse became very interested in Jungian analysis and interpretation. Demian is replete with both Jungian archetypes and Jungian symbolism. demian.jpgIn addition, this psychoanalysis helped Hesse identify psychological problems which he had experienced in his youth, compromising internal tension caused by a conflict between his own carnal instincts and the strict moralism of his parents. These themes appear throughout Demian as semi-autobiographical reflections upon Hesse’s own exploration of Jungian philosophy. Check out the notable passages on it.

 

“The bird struggles out of the egg. The egg is the world. Who would be born must first destroy a world. The bird then flies to God. That God’s name is Abraxas”

 

“Fate and temperament are two words for one and the same concept.” That was clear to me now.

(By how Hesse expressed his thoughts through figurative language, you can clearly understand what he wanted to represent.)

“I have no objection to worshiping this God Jehovah, far from it. But I mean we ought to consider everything sacred, the entire world, not merely the artificially separated half! Thus alongside the divine service we should also have a service for the devil.”

“If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn’t part of ourselves doesn’t disturb us.”

And lastly, The Glass Bead Game, it is said that this novel was Hesse last and longest piece that he had ever written published in 1943. The title “Glass bead game” is the literal translation of the German title, but originally the book was published under the title “Magister Ludi”, Latin for “Master of the Game”. the glass bead game.jpgHowever, this title is misleading, as it directly implies that the book is a straightforward “bildungsroman” (the novel of formation, novel of education, or coming-of-age story). In reality, the novel is about two main dualities and dissecting them at their cores through intense self-analysis and binary oppositions, illustrated through two main settings: The Eastern philosophy versus the Western philosophy and the Worldy pleasures versus Asceticism.

Here are my personally-picked quotes from this novel:

 

“No permanence is ours; we are a wave that flows to fit whatever form it finds”

“There is truth, my boy. But the doctrine you desire, absolute, perfect dogma that alone provides wisdom, does not exist. Nor should you long for a perfect doctrine, my friend. Rather, you should long for the perfection of yourself. The deity is within you, not in ideas and books. Truth is lived, not taught.”

“Should we be mindful of dreams?” Joseph asked. “Can we interpret them?” The Master looked into his eyes and said tersely: “We should be mindful of everything, for we can interpret everything.”

“The old man slowly raised himself from the piano stool, fixed those cheerful blue eyes piercingly and at the same time with unimaginable friendliness upon him, and said: “Making music together is the best way for two people to become friends. There is none easier. That is a fine thing. I hope you and I shall remain friends. Perhaps you too will learn how to make fugues, Joseph.”

I think what Herman Heese wanted us to learn from his novels are: the importance of self- discovery, enlightenment of the reality, the spiritual belief, and also us, embracing the dualities.

Hesse wanted us to discover our inner self because as to what he had experienced, this was very essential. Reality is a horrible thing, we know that, but having the thought of being enlightened to it is a powerful armor to be used as shield in any hindrance. True to fact, Hesse also expressed his spiritual belief (In Demian and Siddharta, probably) in which he used symbolic characters to represent Jehovah, the Jewish God, and that his belief that it embodies only the one face of God, ruling over all the wholesomeness. Hesse believes that there must be dualities into it. If people served the God of wholesomeness, then they should also serve the contrary. Hence, both of these opposing forces should be considered as necessary.

I believe that in some aspects we should believe how Hesse views the world but on the other hand, we should also evaluate it with ourselves because I surely know we believe in the saying “To see is to believe”.  Oh, let me rephrase that… To experience is to believe.

How do you compare to serious writers?

It is very easy for people to call themselves a writer once they write but they do not know what it really takes to be one. Anyone can write. Yes, it seem to be uncomplicated but if you go deep into it, that’s the only time that you’ll get to know what a writer is.

Now, if you think that you are a dedicated writer I am pretty sure you once met your downfall. Here’s a piece from Joel Mwakasege to help you be enlightened.

https://byrslf.co/the-writers-graveyard-and-why-so-many-writers-fail-65bc63fe9317#.nfuobxhev

This Is How A Strong Woman Loves — Thought Catalog

Jesse HerzogHer guileless eyes draw you in like nothing you have experienced before. When she speaks, her voice reminds you of calming and sweet melodies. She flashes you her dazzling and warm smile and you are unable to look away. But don’t underestimate her. She is not a delicate flower to be admired for her…

via This Is How A Strong Woman Loves — Thought Catalog

Top 10 Hollywood child stars that left a remarkable role in their movies.

 

As a human being who has been fond of movie marathons every weekend, I have watched a lot of movies whom I may say left a remarkable spot in my memory. Horror, romance, action, adventure, suspense or thriller, name it I have watched them all. Among all those movies, I gathered all the child stars that I think played their respective roles so well that it only takes to name their character and Voila! You know the movie title already.

 

Will you be able to guess the title of their movie by just knowing these child stars’ role?

 

  1. Daveigh Chase (Samara)

Remember that creepy little girl with long black hair who possessed nensha, allowing her to burn gruesome and twisted images into the minds of people and animals and objects in the horror movie “The Ring”? Yes, you’re right. That’s Samara. If I’m not mistaken Daveigh didn’t have much line in this movie but her appearance is really palpable. Daveigh also voiced Lilo in the animated series Lilo and Stitch. Have you recognized that?

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  1. Jonathan Lipnicki (George Little)

Who would’ve forgotten the ever loving brother of Stuart? Lipnicki was just nine-year old when he played the role of George Little, by simply depicting a good attitude of brotherhood with Stuart, I would say Lipnicki deserves to be claimed as remarkable character in the movie “Stuart Little” though Stuart as being himself was also exceptionally remarkable.

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  1. Julia Winter (Veruca Salt)

Ah yes, I will never forget this pretty yet spoiled brat little girl in the movie, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory .Veruca Salt is one of the five children who have gotten the chance to enter the mysterious and intriguing chocolate factory. In my opinion, that part when she had learned her lesson was the one who really got me because children really had a lot to learn from it. I think this is also the reason why whenever I thought of Veruca Salt and also the protagonist Charlie, the movie title popped in my mind. As an addition, Veruca is also disrespectful; it was good that her punishment really suits her. Who else remembers her “nutty adventure” with his loving father?

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  1. Alexa Vega (Carmen Cortez)

Actually, what I only remember about this girl is her looks but every time I see her in any magazine or what I always thought of the movie Spy Kids. It was just then that I knew her stage name and got to know her character in the movie again because you know, I also couldn’t recall it. She became remarkable not only for me but probably also to people who have watched her movie as well because of her impressive characterization with her role as Carmen, the daughter of Gregorio and Ingrid Cortez, her secret-agent parents.

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  1. Isabelle Furhman (Esther)

Orphan left days of nightmares in my sleep right when I watched it and it was all because of Furhman’s role as Ester. I honestly did not have any idea that Ester was a grown woman trying to wreck a family because of how she looks, she undeniably looked so naive and innocent so I still have doubt that she’ll do what she have done to that family though I already have an idea that she’ll be the antagonist in this movie, it is just that the movie’s concept about Ester was unpredictable.

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  1. Nicola Peltz (Katara)

The genuine beauty of this lady definitely fits her role of Katara, aside from her looks Katara also played a huge part on the movie so yes, I may say, that is the main reason why she reminds me of her movie, The Last Airbender though Aang also counts because of his trademark blue arrowed- bald head but Petz role of Katara really made the movie memorable for me.

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  1. Mackenzie Foy (Renesmee Carlie Cullen)

Foy played the role of Bella Swan and Edward Cullen’s daughter in the movie Twilight: Breaking Dawn Part 2. I honestly included Mackenzie Foy in the list because of her astonishing role as Renesmee. Although she hadn’t said a lot in the movie her natural vampire-looks as a kid got it. I was just wondering, if there would be another installment for the Twilight movie, Will it focus on Renesmee as a grown up one because if it’ll happen I will surely watch it.

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  1. Chloe Grace Moretz (Hit Girl)

The amazing daughter and at the same time side kick of his dad, Big Daddy, Moretz’ role as Hit Girl surely left an incredible impact to the movie than Kick Ass himself. I don’t know, this is just an opinion. Maybe because his role as Kick Ass made him really look stupid but if that’s the case, then he played it well because it was effective. Anyway, I admired how Chloe’s looks changed when she removed her wig as Hit Girl, it’s like two different kid in one costume. Amazing!

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Alright, so we’re now down to our top list, the no.1 child star that undoubtedly left a remarkable role in his particular movie is no other than–

 

  1. Daniel Radcliffe (Harry Potter)

I have several nominees when it comes to this top list but I only thought of one criteria; Consistency. Daniel had been in the Harry Potter installment for like how many years and yet you couldn’t see any changes in his personality as Harry. He may change a bit but I’m sure it was not that noticeable.

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So there you have it, my Top 10 Hollywood child stars that clearly left a remarkable role in their particular movies. If you were able to guess the movie by just their roles, then we have come up with the same list. Why does it felt like it was just yesterday or the other day when these movies has premiered? Time really flies so fast. I’m looking forward for these stars’ upcoming movies. Surely, they’ll be able to beat their previous movies.

 

 

…wondering who could beat Captain America: Civil War as the highest grossing movie this year. 

 

 

 

 

 

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